{"id":3505,"date":"2009-01-30T13:33:21","date_gmt":"2009-01-30T12:33:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lyonbondyblog.fr\/LBB\/?p=3505"},"modified":"2013-08-06T13:34:11","modified_gmt":"2013-08-06T11:34:11","slug":"le-speed-dating-halal-ne-prend-pas-a-lyon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lyonbondyblog.fr\/LBB\/le-speed-dating-halal-ne-prend-pas-a-lyon\/","title":{"rendered":"Le Speed dating Halal ne prend pas \u00e0 Lyon"},"content":{"rendered":"

Alors que les soir\u00e9es rencontre entre jeunes maghr\u00e9bins se multiplient \u00e0 Paris, sur la p\u00e9niche La Baleine blanche\u2026 \u00e0 Lyon l\u2019association Oriental meeting qui a vu le jour il y a quatre ans a cess\u00e9 son activit\u00e9. Nous avons rencontr\u00e9 l\u2019organisatrice des speed dating lyonnais, Sonia. Elle nous explique les raisons de son arr\u00eat.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Autour d\u2019un caf\u00e9, place Bellecour, Sonia, belle jeune femme, dynamique et chaleureuse m\u2019explique l\u2019histoire de son association Oriental Meeting. Son objectif de d\u00e9part \u00e9tait clair : faciliter les rencontres au sein de la communaut\u00e9 musulmane. \u00ab Le manque de temps actuellement ne permet pas d\u2019avoir de r\u00e9elles opportunit\u00e9s sentimentales. D\u2019autant plus que la plupart des gar\u00e7ons maghr\u00e9bins se voient souvent refuser l\u2019acc\u00e8s en bo\u00eete, ce qui fait que les occasions de rencontres se font plus rares. Ces soir\u00e9es sont de v\u00e9ritables apporteurs d\u2019opportunit\u00e9s, elles permettent d\u2019\u00e9largir le carnet d\u2019adresse, sur le plan amical ou bien amoureux. D\u2019ailleurs beaucoup de femmes \u00e9changent leurs num\u00e9ros pour se revoir entre elles \u00bb<\/p>\n

\u00ab Les soir\u00e9es speed dating demandent beaucoup d\u2019organisation, car il faut avoir le m\u00eame nombre d\u2019hommes et de femmes, s\u2019occuper de la communication et de la publicit\u00e9, g\u00e9rer les d\u00e9sistements de derni\u00e8re minutes, les retards\u2026etc. Je m\u2019en occupais le week-end en plus de mon boulot en semaine\u00a0\u00bb, raconte Sonia . \u00ab Au sein d\u2019une structure orientale, chaque candidat a droit \u00e0 5 rendez vous de 15\/20 minutes. L\u2019alcool et les d\u00e9rapages de toutes sortes sont exclus. A la fin, tous les participants inscrivent sur un papier le nom de la personne qu\u2019ils souhaitent revoir. Si la demande est r\u00e9ciproque, je me charge de mettre en contact celles-ci par SMS. La soir\u00e9e continue de plus belle et je ne m\u2019occupe plus des couples qui se sont form\u00e9s. \u00bb<\/p>\n

En ce qui concerne les participants, Sonia nous apprend qu\u2019elle re\u00e7oit surtout des personnes divorc\u00e9es qui veulent construire quelque chose de nouveau sans la contrainte des enfants et de la famille. \u00ab C\u2019est en quelque sorte un second march\u00e9 de l\u2019amour \u00bb, s\u2019amuse t\u2019elle. \u00ab En g\u00e9n\u00e9ral, les femmes que je rencontre ont autour de la quarantaine. Elles ont privil\u00e9gi\u00e9 leurs carri\u00e8res professionnelles et veulent maintenant s\u2019occuper de leurs vies sentimentales. Le speed dating est alors un bon moyen de concr\u00e9tiser avec des hommes issues de leur m\u00eame communaut\u00e9. \u00bb<\/p>\n

Sonia prend un soin particulier \u00e0 se renseigner sur ces candidats. Elle ne va pas jusqu’\u00e0 demander le nom de famille mais elle tient \u00e0 ce que les choses soient bien claires pour tenir une certaine cr\u00e9dibilit\u00e9 face \u00e0 sa client\u00e8le. \u00ab Parfois, on me contacte uniquement pour un mariage blanc mais je refuse. Malheureusement, j\u2019ai remarqu\u00e9 que la plupart des gar\u00e7ons ne cherchaient pas tellement une relation s\u00e9rieuse contrairement aux filles. Ces derni\u00e8res sont d\u2019ailleurs beaucoup plus exigeantes, notamment concernant l\u2019origine du candidat. Les plus \u00e2g\u00e9s concluent plus facilement que les plus jeunes. \u00bb<\/p>\n

Malgr\u00e9 le succ\u00e8s de ces soir\u00e9es dans d\u2019autres villes de France, Sonia a du arr\u00eater son activit\u00e9.<\/p>\n

\u00ab Pour 20 euros seulement, les participants sont s\u00fbrs de passer un tr\u00e8s bon moment. Mais, aujourd\u2019hui, j\u2019ai l\u2019impression de me battre contre les mentalit\u00e9s. De nombreuses difficult\u00e9s m\u2019ont incit\u00e9es \u00e0 arr\u00eater les speed dating. Notamment la r\u00e9ticence des filles \u00e0 y participer. Elles ont peur de se faire juger ou de rencontrer un membre de leur famille. Pour moi, c\u2019est vraiment usant de devoir argumenter \u00e0 chaque fois pour les convaincre. M\u00eame si je remarque plus de participation de la part des filles que des gar\u00e7ons. La seconde raison est le manque de motivation des gar\u00e7ons. A la derni\u00e8re soir\u00e9e que j\u2019ai organis\u00e9, ils ne sont arriv\u00e9s qu\u2019\u00e0 23 heures alors que c\u2019\u00e9tait pr\u00e9vu pour 20 heures. J\u2019ai d\u00fb rembourser les gens. D\u2019ailleurs la communication autour de l\u2019\u00e9v\u00e8nement a \u00e9t\u00e9 mal faite. Par manque de temps, j\u2019ai d\u00e9l\u00e9gu\u00e9 pour la premi\u00e8re fois cette t\u00e2che \u00e0 une autre personne qui s\u2019en est mal occup\u00e9. \u00bb<\/p>\n

Aujourd\u2019hui, l\u2019association Oriental Meeting existe toujours mais Sonia n\u2019organise plus de speed dating communautaire. \u00ab Je veux d\u00e9sormais travailler au sein d\u2019une structure s\u00e9rieuse et fixe qui s\u2019occuperait avec moi d\u2019une partie du travail correctement \u00bb.<\/p>\n

M\u00eame si beaucoup de personnes ne voient pas les speed dating comme une solution noble pour trouver l\u2019\u00e2me s\u0153ur, beaucoup de femmes ont remerci\u00e9 Sonia de s\u2019\u00eatre occup\u00e9 d\u2019elles. C\u2019est pourquoi elle n\u2019abandonne pas son id\u00e9e de d\u00e9part et compte m\u00eame cr\u00e9er un site de rencontres pour musulmans.<\/p>\n

Quant \u00e0 la mentalit\u00e9 lyonnaise, on lui conseille un peu de se mettre \u00e0 la page, au risque d\u2019augmenter les id\u00e9es re\u00e7ues sur notre ville !<\/p>\n

Auteur : Ibtissem Boufassa<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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