{"id":3093,"date":"2010-02-09T16:48:28","date_gmt":"2010-02-09T15:48:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lyonbondyblog.fr\/LBB\/?p=3093"},"modified":"2013-08-01T16:53:43","modified_gmt":"2013-08-01T14:53:43","slug":"bledarde-je-taime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lyonbondyblog.fr\/LBB\/bledarde-je-taime\/","title":{"rendered":"Bledard(e), je t’aime !"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se marier avec une fille ou un gar\u00e7on du \u00ab\u00a0bled\u00a0\u00bb ? Certains ont saut\u00e9 le pas, et racontent \u00e0 Nabil comment leur histoire d’amour a commenc\u00e9.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\u00a0L\u2019id\u00e9e de me marier avec une fille du \u00ab\u00a0bled\u00a0\u00bb ne m\u2019a jamais travers\u00e9 l\u2019esprit. Je me suis toujours dit que peut-\u00eatre, le foss\u00e9 \u00e9tait trop grand. Il est vrai que ma culture magr\u00e9bine est remplie de codes occidentaux pas forc\u00e9ment en phase avec une personne de \u00ab\u00a0l\u00e0-bas\u00a0\u00bb.<\/div>\n

Mais mes arguments qui m\u2019emp\u00eachent peut-\u00eatre de rencontrer l\u2019\u00e2me s\u0153ur sont-ils vraiment valables aujourd\u2019hui\u00a0?\u00a0Pour le savoir, je suis all\u00e9 \u00e0 la rencontre de ces personnes qui, autour de moi, ont franchi le pas.<\/p>\n

Laguehal, 56 ans, me raconte, qu\u2019apr\u00e8s son divorce, il passait beaucoup de temps en Alg\u00e9rie pour voir sa m\u00e8re. Et c\u2019est en l\u2019accompagnant voir des amis qu\u2019il rencontra sa seconde femme, Souad. 43 ans. \u00ab\u00a0Je suis tomb\u00e9 tout de suite sous le charme, et puis elle aussi a connu un divorce, \u00e7a nous a rapproch\u00e9. Le plus ironique c\u2019est que c\u2019est ma premi\u00e8re femme qui m\u2019avait permis de venir en France en 1977. Je vivais alors \u00e0 Alger et elle \u00e0 Paris. Souad et moi vivons aujourd\u2019hui dans un petit village de Lorraine. Un peu d\u00e9paysant au d\u00e9but pour elle, mais aujourd\u2019hui tout se passe bien\u00a0<\/i>\u00bb.<\/p>\n

Laguehal est de la vieille g\u00e9n\u00e9ration, et qui plus est, n\u00e9 en Alg\u00e9rie, donc il est peut \u00eatre plus naturel pour lui d\u2019\u00e9pouser une femme originaire du Maghreb.\u00a0Mais tout n\u2019a pas \u00e9t\u00e9 simple. Souad a eu du mal \u00e0 obtenir un Visa pour venir en France. Il a fallu fournir la preuve d\u2019un futur mariage au consulat de France, notamment par une lettre sign\u00e9e du maire, stipulant la date du mariage.<\/p>\n

Pour en savoir un peu plus, je suis all\u00e9 questionner Yacine 28 ans, mari\u00e9 \u00e0 Souhila, 24 ans, depuis 3 ans.\u00a0Le jeune homme me raconte alors les d\u00e9buts de son histoire d’amour\u00a0: \u00a0\u00ab\u00a0 Souhila vient du village de ma m\u00e8re en kabylie. \u00c7a faisait d\u00e9j\u00e0 longtemps qu\u2019elle me plaisait, mais je n\u2019osais jamais aller la voir. J\u2019\u00e9tais souvent au bled alors j\u2019ai fait \u00e7a un peu \u00e0 la kamikaze, je suis all\u00e9 voir ses parents sans rien dire \u00e0 personne\u2026les miens se sont demand\u00e9s si je ne devenais pas fou\u00a0! (Rire) \u2026. Elle a dit oui et je suis le plus heureux des hommes\u00a0!<\/i>\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n

Autre t\u00e9moignage, celui de Sabrina 28 ans, n\u00e9e en France et travaillant dans un cabinet d\u2019avocat, mari\u00e9 \u00e0 Hamza, 32 ans. \u00ab\u00a0 On se conna\u00eet depuis longtemps avec Hamza. Je crois que \u00e7a c\u2019est fait le plus naturellement du monde. Une amiti\u00e9 qui se transforme en amour, ce n\u2019est pas rare<\/i>\u00a0\u00bb. Hamza a grandi dans le village voisin de celui d\u2019o\u00f9 sont originaires les parents de sabrina. \u00ab\u00a0Nos parents se connaissent bien alors on se voit l\u2019\u00e9t\u00e9 depuis toujours\u00a0\u00bb <\/i><\/p>\n

\u00ab\u00a0Quand je dis que mon mari est un \u00ab\u00a0bl\u00e9dard\u00a0\u00bb, les gens pensent que \u00e7a \u00e9t\u00e9 arrang\u00e9 par nos parents\u2026mais non, on a fait notre truc tout seuls\u00a0(rire)\u00a0<\/i>\u00bb.\u00a0Sabrina me raconte les pr\u00e9jug\u00e9s de certaines de ses amies qui pensent que se marier avec un \u00ab\u00a0bl\u00e9dard\u00a0\u00bb est plut\u00f4t risqu\u00e9. \u00ab\u00a0C\u2019est toujours pareil, si j\u2019avais \u00e9t\u00e9 un mec, \u00e7a n’aurait choqu\u00e9 personne, c\u2019est s\u00fb<\/i>r<\/i>\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n

A la lumi\u00e8re de tous ces t\u00e9moignages, je me demande alors si les diff\u00e9rences que je redoute sont si probl\u00e9matiques que \u00e7a\u00a0?\u00a0 En d\u00e9finitive, s\u2019il y a de l\u2019amour, pourquoi tout compliquer\u00a0?<\/p>\n

Auteur : Nabil Merad<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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